“On this Valentine’s day, I admit that I love you…,” that’s how a teenage boy designed a card he intends to send to his girl. This sounds sweet, doesn’t it? He has even told me that he received so many gifts and wonders where to procure one. “With this excitement of yours, I hope you don’t intend to get down with any girl in bed,” I asked. He replied with a beaming smile, “ah! wahala go dey today, you suppose to trust me.”
Another, invited a girl to come spend some time with him in his room, but the girl prefers time spent in an eatery. This didn’t go down well the guy. According to him, while expressing displeasure, “so we’d seat in an eatery and stare at each other, all day long?”
So what more do these guys want on a “lovers’ day?” You know the obvious answer.
Before proceeding, it would be cool to delve into the origin of the Valentine’s Day.
History.com explains: “While some believe that Valentine’s Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine’s death or burial–which probably occurred around A.D. 270–others claim that the Christian church may have decided to place St. Valentine’s feast day in the middle of February in an effort to “Christianize” the pagan celebration of Lupercalia. Celebrated at the ides of February, or February 15, Lupercalia was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.
“To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at a sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification. They would then strip the goat’s hide into strips, dip them into the sacrificial blood and take to the streets, gently slapping both women and crop fields with the goat hide. Far from being fearful, Roman women welcomed the touch of the hides because it was believed to make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city’s bachelors would each choose a name and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage.”
But why bother about what two consenting lovebirds choose to do on a lovers’ day? Beyond gift giving, this day records very high rate of sexual expressions, which often leave broken hearts.
Instead of sexual activity this year, the government of Thailand is asking teenagers to share a nice dinner and then to go home. "Have a special meal, but not sex" is the slogan of a campaign by the Moral Promotion Centre to raise awareness of the dangers of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
"We are trying to stop our teenagers from engaging in less-than-moral activities which leads to complications," an MPC spokeswoman told the German Press Agency. "We are asking our teenagers to not have any secret plans."
Why this campaign? According to Bangkok post, “Thailand has some of the world's highest teenage pregnancy rates, with 54 out of 1,000 girls between the ages of 15 and 19 giving birth each year, according to Public Health Ministry statistics. Media surveys have shown teenagers in Thailand pick Valentine's Day as the perfect day to lose their virginity, dpa said.”
While speaking with Reuters, Pirapong Saicheua, an official of the city authority stated: "If kids really love each other, it's better for them to go and free birds and fish or go to the temple." Imagine today’s lovers being told to ‘go and free birds and fish.’ :)
The prevalence of illicit sexual activities on this day should particularly worry parents and relatives, because other dangers exist. Many of these girls would be used and dumped by those who love nothing other than their waistlines and busts and the pleasure these can give; of course men aren’t exempted from today’s victimizations. Some girls have more than one guy they’d dump today, depending on who supplies the highest gifts and who doesn’t at all.
Expressions of love shouldn’t be boxed into a particular day and in particular ways.
Whatever you do today, be mindful of the consequences, days after.