Oprah Winfrey, the media icon who ran the Oprah Winfrey show and later OWN, has revealed the reason she has no child.
Was she barren? Did she hate children?
In an interview Oprah, 60, granted The Hollywood Reporter, the media mogul said: "If I had kids, my kids would hate me."
Winfrey, who has enjoyed a successful career in journalism, television and film, admitted, "they would have ended up on the equivalent of the Oprah show talking about me; because something (in my life) would have had to suffer and it would've probably been them."
Winfrey, who has enjoyed a successful career in journalism, television and film — in addition to owning her OWN empire — was just nominated for a Screen Actor's Guild award for her role in "Lee Daniels' The Butler."
Winfrey, told the magazine that she's never found motherhood particularly appealing — a nonchalance dating back to seventh grade, she said.
In some parts of Africa, it will be seen as an aberration for a woman who is worth about three billion dollars ($3 billion) to make a choice not to have a child, or in fact children. In these parts of Africa, and indeed some parts of the world, child bearing is seen as a yardstick for measuring the level of fulfillment a woman has.
The premium placed on having children in some of these affected areas is born out of the goal to preserve a lineage, name, and the certainty of having someone to cater to one’s needs at old age.
Hence, with Oprah’s position some have even muted that she must have had a pact with the underworld to become so successful in exchange for children.
While not ruling out that some have been engaged in uncanny means in order to be at advantage for fame and riches, and while not holding brief for Oprah, it is also important to look at the possibility that one can refrain from certain pursuits due to a self principle of not wanting to be distracted from set goals.
All through ages, people have often sacrificed the opportunity to bear children due to a course they strongly believe in, and for the greater good of that course.
Monks have led such life. Self made eunuchs have even chosen to remain childless in order to pay more attention to matters of religion - a way that offers them hope of a better future.
In the case of Jesus Christ, who loved children, he could have had scores of children and still feed them with less than two fishes and five loaves of breads. But he chose to abstain due to the mission he had on earth. Today, his name still rings a bell, and many want to be associated with him.
We have to live above such thoughts as that having children is vital to the making of a successful woman; in fact this erroneous thought has led many women to dangerous ventures aimed at pleasing the societal view that they must have children, even though they may not be so inclined.
Today, Oprah own schools and foundations from which lots of children benefit. Her name has also found its way to hall of fames and as such, she has accomplished prolonging her name after death - long enough to last before this civilization vanishes. At older age, she would still be able to afford attendants, besides loved ones who would readily attend to her needs at such time of bodily tiredness.
- Oprah with her young fans
Rather than make children who would hate her because she won’t be a good mother – a near certainty for many in her industry, she has chosen to refrain from having one.
Ironically, some parents have been hacked to death by the same children they taught held hopes for a better tomorrow for them. Some of these children are now a menace to the societies because their parents weren’t available, beyond financial provisions.
An option would have been for Oprah Gail Winfrey to forgo her loved career, but that option didn’t seem to be on the table, hence her decision. That decision of hers, which is personal, should be respected.
Grooming balanced and responsible children takes a lot more than material provision. They require your presence, love, care, reassurances and believe in the originator of the family life. When you aren’t available in their lives, you breed nuisance. If you must have them, please be readily available in their lives.
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